When people ask me questions about why certain things are happening to them, I often discover that they had still not gotten it even if I had already told them.
What I mean by not gotten it, I mean that even though I’ve been telling them about the subconscious mind before, or they’ve been reading my blog for a while, they still had not figured it all out.
At times it’s going to be something I finally said that will give them that AHA moment and in such case they’ll say, “ah, I’m getting it now.”
This is exactly what happened, just this past week, to a local person who always ask me questions about why things have been happening to him. I finally find a way to illustrate my answer in such a way that he GOT IT. Yes, he had an AHA moment, and hopefully he won’t have to ever ask me WHY again.
So, in this post I wanted to try to answer the question why do we do what we do, why we don’t always agree with our action. When this person asked me again last week, WHY do I keep doing this? I guess I finally explained it to him in such a way that he finally understood fully WHY.
When that happened, I knew that I had a post there, because I bet a lot of you are still feeling the same way – you may feel that you got it, but as long as you’re still asking why, it’s proof that you didn’t.
What is the Crucial Difference Between Conscious and Subconscious Minds
The first thing that you need to understand is that there are really two of each one of us in a sense. There is the conscious part of us and the unconscious part of us which is called the subconscious.
These two parts of the mind are totally different and exist for very different purposes.
While the conscious mind helps us to do every day little shores that keep us going about our every day business, the subconscious mind is the giant beyond that conscious that keeps our heart beating while we’re awake and while we’re asleep, and free our conscious mind of all the millions things that it couldn’t even contain.
As I have mentioned several times before over my previous posts, driving is a perfect example. When you’re driving a car or a bike it’s not your conscious that’s driving, it’s your subconscious. If you had to actually think about every detail that driving a vehicle requires you couldn’t even drive at all.
While you’re thinking about anything else but driving your car is still going on the correct side of the road while you pushing all the right pedals, and makes all the right turns. All these while you’re not really consciously thinking of it.
That why sometimes when we consciously decide to take another road, if we for a split second we forget about it, our subconscious mind will take the old road. We’ve all done that, didn’t we? I know I have more times than I can count.
Why Don’t We Always Agree With Our Actions?
The fundamental reason why we sometimes don’t understand our own past actions is that our conscious is not in agreement with our subconscious. And since our actions were executed under the “mainly” the control of our subconscious mind we are only left to “consciously” wonder why.
But why such thing even happen at all?
The way I explained this person why he almost always found himself doing what he should have it’s because of the way that his subconscious mind is, or was set. This is how I illustrated it to him so he could not only understand but stop blaming himself and thinking that he’s just simply stupid.
Our body is basically a muppet while our subconscious is the the hands that old the strings. This is THE reason why we look at some of our past mistakes and say, how in the world did I do this?
Does this mean that we’re stupid? Does this mean that our subconscious is stupid? NO. The subconscious is just a data storage that can only act upon its programming – it doesn’t think, or make decision. It just plays the tape, so to speak.
If you set your computer with printer A and for some reason want to add printer B, unless you tell the computer that you now want your copies come through printer, B it will still get your copies to printer A.
This is exactly HOW the subconscious mind works.
People decided that A solution is no good because they’ve been burned so many times with it, so they say, I want solution B now, but what they don’t realize is that while they want that, they haven’t changed the data of the machine, so it still gives them some the A solution – not B.
Why is the Subconscious Set in Such Way?
Your subconscious mind is not trying to ruin your life, on the contrary. Your subconscious exist to protect you, but in the eventuality that it’s set correctly, so to speak.
If a baby tree is held correctly to grow up straight it will grow up straight and have a tall beautiful shape as an adult tree. Thus it will accomplish its purposes of enhancing the landscape, giving shade and renewing the oxygen in the air.
However, if a baby tree is bend somehow, either purposely or by accident, the tree will grow crooked, never able to give proper shade and enhancing the landscape with its beauty. Maybe the tree will have to be cut down and replaced by another tree.
This is what happens with the our subconscious mind to some degree. Our subconscious mind has been bent to some degree, mostly at a very young age by the adults that raised us, and then by various experiences we went through as we were growing older.
So, our subconscious, instead of providing us with the right guidance and protection it was supposed to do, it made us take the wrong decisions, do the wrong things, end up with the wrong people in the wrong place. Because the subconscious mind can only act upon what it knows. If it doesn’t know any better, well, you won’t get any better results either. EVER. Until you change your programming.
Have you Gotten it?
It’s when I finally took that “bent tree” example to illustrate my point that this person finally got it! Now the point is to find out where and how it’s bent, and how to straighten it.
A bent tree might have to be shopped down, but when it comes to your subconscious mind, you can “unbend” it and reshape it. But how?
This will be the subject of my next post. So stay tuned.
